Month: July 2008

  • tallness in men

    lately, people tell me i'm really tall.
    but, i'm not. i'm only 5'9.
    but the difference is that my posture is really good now.
    there are lots of 6ft guys out there but they are mostly slouchers and look like 5'10'ers.
    the reason why most men cannot keep good posture is because the straight position is a position of confidence and power.
    most people cannot sustain that posture because other alpha males will be sending vibes in the direction to make them cower into a slouched position.
    so if you see a person walking around w/ really good posture & a swagger, you know they are a little crazy bc they are asking for competitive energy and don't care if it comes their direction.
    actually, this should be the normal posture for a man, but since everyone is civilized, they will slouch their way through life out of courtesy.

  • notes from thinking over yesterday

    1. it's better to just apologize about something quickly, sincerely and add my truthful commentary after that. this is better than adding fuel to the fire of the person who has felt wronged, by being defensive of my actions.
    2. when i start to like a girl, i feel a desire to provide for them and protect them.
    3. not overeating when going out, and saving half for take-out is a genius move. good breakfast eating.
    4. women with large breast have a magical power over me. they are able to use that to their advantage and make me go the extra mile for them. (australian woman going back home, box, 30mins overtime)
    5. taking actions or saying words to protect a person shows that you care for them.
    6. watching movies at the theaters sucks. what's more boring than staying stationary for 2.5 hours in uncomfortable seats? i'd rather spend that 2.5 hours walking around in the mall, people watching. i fell asleep at 1.5 hours for batman. but, i did only get 3 hours sleep the day before because of GLOW so that might be the reason.
    7. good way to make a conversation flow is to ask the right questions at the right time. when you do this, you open a person up to expand on a topic they like talking about. i am good at this.
    8. don't be a show off. don't try to dominate a scene and make myself the center of it. it's ok to just lay back, absorb, and learn.
    9. jealousy relating to friendships is a waste of time. who cares who is who's best friend. who is closer to someone than the other. i can live & enjoy my life on my own if i had to. having friends is just icing on the cake. i should just appreciate what i have. it's unnecessary to compete for people's friendships. attraction is natural. no forceful effort necessary.
    10. the best kind of humor comes from that person's soul & is created spontaneously. many people  regurgitate material from comedy shows, tv & other funny people. that spontaneous type of skill cannot be taught because it is unique to each person. and, each person has it. it comes out when someone is very relaxed, open and playful.
    11. making somone feel inferior is a good way to create unnecessary backlash. always be humble.
    12. don't forget my parents & their plans. call them when you are going to back out on plans. treat them like a beautiful girl, they are just as important.
    13. my face changes depending on level of health. when most stressed & sickly, i can drop as low as a 4. but when i am most healthy and everything including stars are aligned, i feel like a 7 or a 8. but, usually chilling around 6.5. 
    14. being successful with girls is more about confidence & personality & content than how handsome a man is. but, ofc face & body matters because most people place some value on it, especially if the attraction is solely sex based.
    15. there is no space in my life for self-depreciating modes of thought, attitude, & emotion.
    16. all that i think, do, say leads to expansion & growth.
    17. we are talking about a total makeover of my life - a real revolution.
    18. all paradigm shifts that have occurred throughout history will pale in comparison to the positive changes approaching in my life.

  • notes from thinking over weekend.

    1. people make mistakes. no big deal, learn, move on.
    2. don't over analyze the small details. look for patterns instead of finding faults in isolated incidents.
    3. don't try to understand everything. sometimes it's ok to just let something exist w/o analysis. (go w/ the flow)
    4. attraction between 2 people is a natural process. there is no need to force it where there is none.
    5. it feels good to get a smile from a girl that you actually think is beautiful. sort of like a dream come true..
    6. beautiful women do not ignore me if i try to talk to them. they actually respond very openly & positively. one girl even tried to have chi & her dog mate.
    7. be open, people like that. -flex (air flare break dancer performer from santa monica)
    8. totally get rid of the angry energy. then, my life will run very smoothly. -kenji
    9. i don't need friends that will bring my life down, cut me down.
    10. people who don't try to protect you from dangers are not really good friends.
    11. people who are intelligent enough to know the consequences and
    still recommend dangerous activities are not very good friends.
    12. even though i feel like i have unlimited energy, reserve that energy. don't over exert yourself.
    13. no more burgers, no more rice.
    14. form fitting clothing. evolve my dress attire. get my 30-30's
    hemmed. button up shirts to become standard wear. less white t's.
    15. continue on w/ humility & kindness.
    16. humility & kindness can resolve most human conflicts.
    17. emotional, karmic battles will only continue & escalate into
    infinity unless one side decides to take a humble & kind approach
    to resolve the dispute. most souls are not unreasonable. if offered
    humility & kindness, most will back off and cooperate towards
    amends.
    18. if nothing seems to resolve the issue, get some help from God. all of a sudden, new ways to resolve the issue will arise.
    19. bring out the best in people, take them higher. i will rise with that momentum naturally.
    20. if i cut people down, and try to suppress them, my life will be suppressed equally.
    21. even if it's just a single quick thought. it may have some psychic
    emotional strength behind it. be quick to consciously resolve the
    attack by offering humility & kindness.
    22. maybe "i am humble but manly" can be replaced by "i am manly, but humble" this leaves the animal, manly energy as the strong source, but it is under control of civility.
    23. conversation blanks come out of inexperience. talk & thinking will become fluid as i become re-assimilated w/ society.
    24. lack of sleep, sickness, fatigue, environmental excuses are not valid. no excuses, always try your best to give it your best.
    25. let attraction build naturally. if you put so much effort into making the attraction work, when you run out of that initial energy, the relationship will disappear.
    26. start, build relationships w/ people i can really trust & respect.

    work at 12:30pm. i can't wait to learn new ways to relate to people today. today will be one of my greatest days yet.

  • learning to catch myself

    i was about to type this really stupid story that would reveal my loser-ness unnecessarily.
    kindness is protecting my self image.

  • the kindness factor

    i am starting to realize that kindness is one of the fundamental skills for social interaction.
    without it, relationships will not last.
    ofc there are relationships based on money & sex, but even those have a few layers of kindness at the core of them
    kindness is the glue that binds people together
    as long as you have kindness, you can say or do anything and it will be ok. it will be taken as a joke.
    it's when kindness is lacking that jokes become bitter & hurtful.
    kindness can be felt by people. it attracts people and enables them to trust you.

    i must say, i checked my thoughts all day and checked if each one had kindness present.
    i would say 90% of my thoughts & actions don't have kindness. lol
    i got a ways to go. haha

    and for some reason i feel like the whole world can read my thoughts.
    so every bitter thought i make is heard by these people. and, they end up hating me.
    but, if my thoughts were 90% full of kindness, imagine how different my relationships would be.

    this is a no-brainer. i have to master kindness.

  • joel osteen

    "it's not so much that we break bad habits; we must replace them."

  • alternative to in-and-out burger

    i need an alternative.
    i have a feeling all my working out and running is being neutralized by the frequent visits to in-and-out.
    i tried wendy's grilled chicken roll today.
    that might be something.
    i need to find more places with grilled chicken.
    not only this, it gotta be cheap like $1.25 or less.
    w/o any strange sauces included that adds calories either.
    any ideas?

  • dog beach people

    where are these people from? they look so happy.
    some of these girls just had a huge smile on constantly.
    i tried to smile to keep up with everyone there but it's exhausting. lol
    i guess it takes some practice to get used to.

    http://www.naturetrek.co.uk/newsletter/images/200796947570.Galapagos-Sea-lion-and-pup.jpg

    there was a sea lion that got washed ashore.
    an old man was looking over it and we had a conversation about it.
    i decided to run to the lifeguard post like a mile away to tell them to get it some help.
    i hope they save it. it had an orange tag on it.
    her face was so beautiful. it reminded me of chi. that's why i wanted to help it.

    after the beach, i decided to walk around uci for old times sakes.
    it was really changed. lots of new building.

    there was some cuties walking around too.
    i wish i was in college again.

    lately i notice that when i look at girls, they look really happy that i'm watching.
    i think i am giving them an ego trip of sorts.
    they deserve it tho, they look good.