Get rid of what you don't need. Immediately. This is something you have to take action on right away if you want to get anywhere in this whole organizing thing. Get. Rid. Of. It. You don't need it. Yeah, yeah, I know, you might need it someday. No, you won't. Trust me. I get rid of things all the time and do you know how many of those things I have later needed? None of them. Maybe I've wanted a few of them back, but never have I ever needed them back. Go through all of your stuff (and I do mean all of it) and get rid of the things you don't need or want. Give it away if you can. If you can't, throw it away. I know it's hard but you CAN do it. Don't waste another second. Do it now. Don't think about it. Don't weigh the pros and cons of keeping it or not. If you don't need it, don't use it, and don't love it (and, no, you do not love those beat up old boots of yours)...get rid of it. I'm serious, people. The only way to get organized is to get rid of all of the stuff you don't need. And don't you dare make excuses...especially excuses that involve the words "sentimental," "gift," or "special." No matter what you believe comes after this life, I'm pretty darn sure you can't take any of those special things with you so get rid of what you don't need. NOW.

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Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticise yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown

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luminosity.com works... i think my memory is better, and my thinking speed too.

spencerpratt: I spend money to stay hungry

Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.

Theirs is a life of constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not
enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged.

You can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life!

What is this secret? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the
other 90%!

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!

Let's use an example. You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. An exchange of verbal abuse follows. You storm upstairs and angrily change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying in hurt to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife leaves immediately for work, upset and angry.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you furiously drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you
arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find damage and hurt in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? All because of how you chose to react in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The honest answer of course, is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds, which was entirely under your control, is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is feeling apologetic and sorry. You gently say with a smile, "It's OK honey, I know you didn't mean it."

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you CHOOSE to react. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your own free will.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret. If someone says something negative about you, let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, ruining relationships, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? Who cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry
about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over
what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

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1. one thing at a time
2. know the problem
3. learn to listen
4. learn to ask questions
5. distinguish sense from nonsense
6. accept change as inevitable
7. admit mistakes
8. say it simple
9. be calm
10. smile

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hmmmm... so recently i've been getting my asskicked energy-wise by this co-worker at ?arget. i didn't understand where all the confidence was coming from. his walk has a little swagger that i didn't understand. and, it threw me off. yesterday i was watching godfather part 1 on cable. there was a scene where al pacino is walking across the country in sicily where he fled after killing the police chief in that restaurant. anyways in this scene he is walking really relaxed, but looking a little strange in motion. i remembered by friend in college used to walk like that. i thought oh, maybe he copied al pacino either subconsicouly or consiously. he was mimicking al pacino's swagger. then, in another scene, al pacino had a distinctive swagger and i realized it was the same swagger as my co-worker.....

so this has me thinking, people can mimic the strengths of others. you don't even have to be the true source of that strength or swagger, as long as you mimic good enough, the beneficial functions are there. that's nuts.

so this can be true of the opposite, you can mimic the weakness of others too - consciously or subconsciously.

that's kinda scary, so you are picking up all these behaviors subconsciously from all over the place. you are mimicking people's strengths and weaknesses, consciously and subconsciously.

which leads me to think, it's best to be around and observe and copy those people with strength and success and intelligence.

because, without even knowing it.. their functions may become yours.

now, the internet speed is 2m down instead of 10megs.... initially i thought it was the router again... but i called charter and it says they are doing upgrades in the area. whew... so it should self-heal by 3pm tomorrow.

so, yesterday i was stumbling upon different sites and one caught my eye... http://www.pluginid.com/21-day-challenge/ this guy was introducing a method that can change your life in 21 days. he says that for a habit to become natural, it has to be consistently repeated for 21 days straight. and, he gets into self image and how to modify it. pretty cool stuff, but what really caught my attention was this other site that he claimed to be the best book ever, better than eckhart toll's "power of now". http://www.pluginid.com/improve-at-anything/ this other site that he wrote based on Maxwell Maltz's "Psycho Cybernetics" in the first few paragraphs of this article called "improve at anything" he described 3 groups of basketball players. one group actually practiced hoop shots, the other did nothing, and the 3rd imagined doing hoop shots. the first group improved 24% the second group, no improvement and the 3rd group who just imagined doing hoop shots had a 23% increase. wtf! right? so, just imagining something is just as good practice as physically doing it.

so on my way to work, i was in my car thinking about this trippy statistic. then, i thought about how i always have a little stress just lingering around in my body and mind while i drive. i wanted it to go away. then, i remember the exercise the basketball players did. i decided to "imagine, no stress" then, boom! all of sudden, i was stress-free. wtf... so all these years i've been trying to get rid of stress, people tell you to do yoga, and breathing exercises, go to therapy, and positive thinking. people tell you methods to try to get rid of stress. but as you breathe and do all these exercises there is always that weird stress sorta hovering around in the background, in an untouchable area. this is direct. it doesn't get more direct to the result as this. you basically just create a stress-free mind and physical instantly when you "imagine, no stress." see, the logic for me is... if these basketball players can increase their hoop shot results by 23% as same as those who physically practiced it. then, to get rid of stress, no physical effort is necessary.

i repeated, "imagine, no stress" all day long while i was cashiering. i became "no stress" it's nuts. i actually became "no stress!!!" i felt like i had no need to think or do anything, and felt like i was flying away into a different dimension. then, i had to remind myself i was still on earth and had to cashier.

another reason why, i think this worked is because after reading "improve at anything" and the basketball players. i actually tried an experiment last night that gave me confidence that it works. i had been plagued with a strange internet/pc problem where every jpeg that i uploaded came out garbled. i couldn't fix it for weeks. and yesterday and last night was putting an real effort to fix the problem. i put in atleast 12 hours trying to fix it. then, i remember the basketball players. and, tried...."imagine, the uploaded jpegs not being distorted when i upload."  anyways, i just imagined my uploaded jpegs not being distorted when i upload. my logic was if the mental world and physical world doesn't know the difference, then if i imagine it, then it will physically become real too. well, the solution came in an indirect weird way. after chanting and imaging my pc problem being fixed. i started to google things differently using abnormal keyword, then the solution popped up as a router problem, and this lead to me fixing this weeks-old problem, in 15 to 30 minutes after i decided to "imagine" my pc problem was fixed.

oddly, for whatever reason, the uploaded jpeg that appeared right before fixing the router problem was the picture of "the buddah."

see, undistorted, ungarbled picture uploaded. the fucking problem was fixed, instantly just by imagining the end result.

thanks to glen, who wrote the above 2 articles. without that i couldn't have made my stress disappear instantly, nor fixed my internet problem.

i'm gonna keep trying "imagine, no stress" for 21 days and see if it becomes permanent.
will keep you posted.

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