November 28, 2009

• why smiling works

  i’ve been smiling every chance i get. when i wake up, when i’m driving in my car. whenever i find my face in apathy, i just force it into a smile and hold for 10 seconds. i try to remind myself to do this routine at the top of every hour. it’s almost becoming habitually spontaneous.

  i started doing this because of what i read here… http://mooks-dayoo.xanga.com/716994333/top-10-reasons-to-smile/

  for years i had been reading a lot of self-help books, and watching my health so as to increase my chances of having a happy life. and, a large portion of my drive was also to attract or to have more relations with the opposite sex.

  my body is good enough. i mean, i should be able to get girls based on that. my face is ok too, so i should be able to attract girls that way too.
  so, i thought. but nothing comes of it. so i was sorta disappointed.

  but, i think what i was missing is that the physical value has to be backed up by some positive emotional value too.
  otherwise, it’s just physical. and just physical is quite boring and repetitive after a while.

  so, smiling is adding a new dimension to my value.

  i am starting to realize that sometimes. when i have lots of negative thoughts. it’s much more useful to just smile and think of nothing.
  a simple smile for 10 seconds is 1000 times more valuable than 10 seconds of negative thoughts.

  and, you would think a smile is just a smile. but the repercussions of smiling have enormous effect on one’s emotional health.

  see, if you are frowning, or angry and or showing no emotions most of the time. when people talk to you, they will mirror the same face and energy towards you. each social transaction will be negative experience and weigh down on your self-esteem.  even if you mean no harm towards the other person, your face will be mirrored by the other person, like it or not.

  the magical thing about this formula is that when you force yourself to smile all the time. the people around you will mirror that same face, if they like it or not. it’s almost like a instinctive reaction to smile when a person is smiling. so, every personal interaction will start, stay and end with a smile on both sides.

  and, when you are smiling, it is very difficult to harbor negative thoughts or emotions.

  your facial expression forces a new attitude from within. that new attitude and energy is the thing i am interested in right now.
  this positive attitude is what attracts people and keeps them interested in you.

  i always was able to get some type of reaction from the opposite sex, just by mere physical-ness. but, that never extended to anything bigger.
  but, when you are emitting a positive attitude, they can’t stop watching it. and, it’s not just the physical, it’s the emotional value that they have their eyes on.

  so before i was getting tons of surveys while working… my initial charm would be enough to get them to do it. but, by the end of the experience they are left bereft of any emotional value from the experience.

  now, i start it with a smile… the whole experience is kept at the smiling emotional tone, then it is finished strong with positive emotional tone. i see them leaving me shaking my hands and smiling largely. it’s a different experience altogether. i’m doing everything the same, just with a smile. and, it’s making a huge difference.

  that’s why in my pulse i wrote that i think smiling will change my life bc i have been doing this for 2-3 days and i see lots of improvement.

  the smiling energy has a snowballing effect as well. a smile leads to initial positive energy between two people, then you can use that energy to create a conversation between the two that feels positively charged and this opens up new possibilities that weren’t there before.

  all from one little smile…

  the solution was a very basic one.
  i just need to keep practicing it until it is a natural part of me.

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