October 1, 2009
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things i learned at work recently...
1. tone of voice is everything. it can make or break rapport.
2. don't expect anything from people. if i expect politeness or civility, i am disappointed every other minute.
3. to get what you want, i must ask for it. nothing gets done until you personally get the ball moving. noone else gives a shit for your well being, except you.
4. everyone is watching. you might not think it. but everyone is watching your behavior. even if you think you are smart and hiding.. people usually notice. even if you hide it in action.. it all seeps out in emotional tone and attitude. they can see it, they are not stupid.
5. don't cross your managers, they will make your work harder or easier for you depending on your relationship with them.
6. get along with the veterans. they will look out for you.
7. don't show weakness, people will step all over you.
8. don't give out secrets that will undermine your own positioning. let them learn on their own.
9. biceps are equivalent to woman's titties.
10. don't do favors for people just because they are beautiful. once you do it, they will know how you feel and just take advantage of it. or, think of you as lesser.
Comments (23)
cool
wow somehow this sounds a lot more negative than mine
@Irenium - i finally won against pton.
All true. I like this. I think 2 (and some others) apply to everyday life. 2 is something I learned some time ago, and it's so true. I've learnt to expect nothing at all, that way, people won't let me down... because they always find a way to.
@OhItWontBeForever - i hoppe people do the same to me on #2, that way they won't be disappointed.
I think everybody realises how unreliable people are: so any small act of kindness never goes unappreciated.
@OhItWontBeForever - i wish that was always true..
What do you mean? From what I have seen, it always is!
But I can see what you mean. There was a time when I believed every little smile would make someone feel a thousand times better, but I've noticed some people actually ignore smiles. 
@OhItWontBeForever - some people have such egos that they will not accept nice deeds from those who they deem lesser than them. lol i'm sure there are other scenarios where it's true too. but, this is the one that popped into my mind when i read your response.
That is definitely true. They'll take advantage of it. Kinda like point 10 on your entry.
@OhItWontBeForever - lol nice awareness.. it is the same biatch.
hahahaha, really?! Well, she isn't the only one. I also know people like that. Some are in my own family.
@OhItWontBeForever - i find the only way these types of people will submit to you is if they fear you. that's the only way to win against such big headed people bc otherwise they get everything they want without doing anything.
So true.
And there are always the movie-moments where it takes a few seconds to help someone realise that they're not all that. I didn't really like the film, but I enjoyed the scene in 17 Again when Zac's character put the bully guy in his place.
@OhItWontBeForever - wow that would be awesome to have them realise it on their own... how did zac do it?
I could try to remember and describe it, but I wouldn't do it justice. I will try to look it up for you, now! But it was kinda unrealistic, you know. I don't think anybody would conjure up the confidence to face up to a bully like that "in real life", you know?
I found it! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhJrN3B6J1M&feature=PlayList&p=F7DEBBC34DE91BB9&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=45
It's kinda as much to do with basketball skills as it is with the words he says, which is why I say it's unrealistic. But yeah, I like it.
@OhItWontBeForever - nice find.. i wouldn't characterize this biatch as a bully... she just gets her own way by befriending everyone around her with her beauty. and, she somehow knows how to use that to get what she wants. what pisses me off is that everyone else is cashering hard, and she is just walking around doing basically nothing.
That's really annoying. That's how the world is, though: it's not about kindness or intellect or moral values... it's all about beauty.
@OhItWontBeForever - yes, beauty is a powerful thing. they can really get what they want without doing much. it sucks. maybe i can win by reporting this behavior to the top manager. or maybe i should confront her personally of it.
Confront her, by all means, but I doubt it'd do much. As you've said, she's fully aware of what she's doing, and she's intentionally taking advantage. Someone telling her about it would only make her happy that people are realising and yet still can't do anything about it, so she could carry on doing it.
Yeah, telling your manager would be a good thing, if her lack of work is really bad! I hope the manager listens and does something about it. If the manager talks to her, she might think harder about what she's doing, and realise, that not everybody needs her, and she (probably) needs her job, so hopefully she'd change.
@OhItWontBeForever - the managers closely above us are already under her spell, i can't tell them. it's the highest managers in the store that can do something about it by lecturing our managers.
Go for it, then!
I would put you down in history on the same page as Zac... make that ten times better than him, seeing as he was in a MOVIE, and you doing it in real life would be a first, from what I know!
Good luck! <3
@OhItWontBeForever - thanks, i will try it.
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