This past month, I've been trying the affirmation.. "Be happy for the success of others."
Although on the surface I seemed happy for them, I felt myself deep down.. still a little bitter and jealous of others who are smarter, doing better than me, look better than me, or are happier than I am.
So I started to investigate. What was causing me to feel this way? In general, I am of the asshole variety, and I always knew I really needed to improve this side of me. When I watch my thoughts, my mind is on auto-criticizer mode. Constantly finding faults, making corrections and looking for ways to lower the other person in comparison to me. I know this sounds pretty bad thus far.. but bare with me.
So I started to list some affirmations that might help me subdue the critic in me. Listed a dozen of them, but none seemed appropriate or effective. Then it happened.. Boom out of nowhere.. I don't know, maybe it was the Xanga princess of affirmations that came down from heaven and planted it in my heart. "Don't hold grudges." Seemingly disrelated, but it was exactly what was needed. It wasn't till the next day, when I started to actually use the affirmation, that I realize what a far-reaching breakthrough it was. It's unbelievable how many small and massive grudges I have piled up within me against various people, things events, in the past & present. I observed my thoughts and I was creating grudges against the people I was encountering in real-time! No wonder I was bitter against those who I felt were superior to me, no matter how hard I tried to be happy for them. I spent maybe the past 3-4 days undoing these grudges I have built up. At first it was difficult, but after a dozen times, admitting to fault and/or forgiving and letting go of the grudges became easier. After a while, it felt very good to let go of these things. I got so confident about it, I roamed my memory of past grudges & events and try to let go of those too.
The result? My mind is very quiet now. It kinda feels like I am at peace with those people I held grudges against for such a long time. Can't believe a silent, internal, grudgefest was being fought within me without me knowing about it. "I don't hold grudges." Invaluable. I observe my mind today, and it's a totally different environment. The critical thoughts pop up once in a while, but I slam it down immediately and it has no choice but to stfu. It's amazing how many small grudges I had built up over the smallest, most insignificant things. I'm gonna try to make this affirmation totally become a part of me through habit and repetition. I have a feeling doing so will change my personality quite a bit, for the better, in the long run.
Contemplating whether to delete this entry or not...
Good night! & have a good weekend, yo.
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